I am 18 and I have been doing blood pokes at home since I was about 12 I think. I just use a diabetic type of lancet device that kinda looks like a pen and you can control the deepness of the poke. I have also found that if I am more hydrated that changes how much I bleed. I understand you have a young daughter and that may not be so easy to achive. Also one of the things that the clinic I go to has taught me is that if you warm the area in which you would like to poke it also gets the blood flowing. So I normally poke my finger and I either soak it in warm water or I rub the side of my finger on my thumb to get it warm.