Donâ€™t call eating something that they shouldnâ€™t "cheating." For me, it created a real sense that I was a bad person, that I was a cheater. Instead I recommend calling it eating something that will harm them or will make them sick. To me, it gives the child a sense they have done something that can hurt them without the potential of creating a sense they are a bad person morally. Involve the kids in decision-making. Make them feel as if they have some choice in their lives. There are some things where they donâ€™t have a choice; but for those things where they do, make them a part of the decision. Although throughout this I have always called it a diet and probably always will, I think we should try to start calling it a PKU lifestyle. I know that there is more than one definition of the word "diet". Even though I know the intended meaning of the word in this case refers simply to what is eaten, in todayâ€™s society it is difficult not to think of it in terms of one its' other definitions. With the way society treats diets, it connotes something that isnâ€™t permanent. It is something that you go on and off. The word lifestyle creates a sense of permanency. It is a way of life, not a diet. Don't be too strict with the kids. While effectively maintaining the PKU lifestyle is vitally important, it can create an opposite effect if overstressed. I believe one of the reasons I went off my diet was that my parents were so strict with me when I was little. The only thing I could do was to swing in the opposite direction. Though it may sound like it, I am not blaming my parents. So much more is known about PKU now then when I was a kid. There are so many things my parents and I thought I never could have. But now we know I can at least have them in moderation. It is a different, better world today than when I was younger. My parents did the best they could with what they had. Though I may be biased, I think they did a great job.